Saturday, October 29, 2011

Henri Nouwen

If you've not ever read anything by this man, go now and pick up one of his books.  This is what I read recently & it spoke so much truth into my life.

If you are being sanctified right now, just remember it's happening for a reason.

"You must avoid not only blaming others but also blaming yourself.  You are inclined to blame yourself for the difficulties you experience in relationships.  But self-blame is not a form of humility.  It is a form of self-rejection in which you ignore or deny your own goodness and beauty.
When a friendship does not blossom, when a word is not received, when a gesture of love is not appreciated, do not blame it on yourself.  This is both untrue and hurtful.  Every time you reject yourself, you idealize others.  You want to be with those whom you consider better, stronger, more intelligent, more gifted than yourself.  Thus you make yourself emotionally dependent, leading others to feel unable to fulfill your expectations and causing them to withdraw from you.  This makes you blame yourself even more, and you enter a dangerous spiral of self-rejection and neediness.  Avoid all forms of self-rejection.  Acknowledge your limitations, but claim your unique gifts and thereby live as an equal among equals.  That will set you free from your obsessive and possessive needs and enable you to give and receive true affection and friendship."
Henri Nouwen

2 comments:

  1. Bravo, my friend. I love seeing you post things like this. :)

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  2. Nouwen is an amazing expositor of the human condition in light of the need for redemption. I read everything I can get my hands on by him.

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